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Monday, May 15, 2006

Sunburns and Perceptions

Is it possible to get a sunburn on the palms of your hands or the solesof your feet?

I have no idea. I'm really struggling with past tenses. First it was bit and bitten, now its sunburnt vs sunburned. Anyone? Anyone? You can burn those areas, though obviously its much harder and, fyi, Africans can get a sunburn too.

If you could sleep with anyone in the world who would you pick? And if it was the right before you died...would it be the same person or a different one.

Great 2nd question because dream sex is totally different than death bed sex. With dream sex, you just want someone you're the most attracted to. With death bed sex, you're prob looking for the person who means the most to you, or maybe a repeat of the best sex you've had. But no, I won't tell you who, esp b/c I've never had sex before.

Do doctors watch and/or enjoy doctor shows?

To quote my cousin "ER is so over, I can't watch it anymore. I like Grey's, but I missed last week, and scrubs is good but I never have time during the week." So, yes, doctor's do watch doctor shows.

If tell a guy I like his cologne and he smells good its considered flirting I tell a girl I like her perfume it's being nice, It's not being a lesbian why can't me telling a guy he smells good just be nice?

This is new york, why are you talking to anyone you don't know?!?! We're supposed to be trying to run an unfriendly city here, and then there are people like you, who try to ruin that unfriendliness. Everyone takes the complement and everyone is assumed straight. If you want someone to think you are gay, you've got to work at it. For a guy, wear a pink shirt or cords. For a girl, wear a wife beater to a restaurant and put dreads in your hair. If you do that, then complement a girl on her attire or perfume, she'll think you were hitting on her. If you dress and talk like you're a 9 year old stuck in a 22 year olds body, then you be assumed straight, sorry.

Is it smart or obnoxious if a guy keeps hair ties next to his bed, like in his condom drawer?

That's a very very smart idea. Long hair totally gets in the way all the time. However, keeping a box of hair ties in your night table is not the nicest thing to do. I'd suggest using a rubber band and keeping it on your desktop. It'll be much easier to explain, and will do the job as well (shoelace could work too). There's no need to risk being viewed as a player.

Is it wrong for a guy to ask for head?

No, def not. Someone who's quite sexually open and loves telling stores told me about some girl who got so mad because he asked for it the first time they were hooking up that she stopped hooking up and just rolled over and went to bed. He told me, that he turned her back around and told her that "being open and honest about sexual preferences is healthy and fun, and you should understand that. If there's something you like, tell me, and I'll do the same. I'm not insulting you by asking, I'm merely being sexually open, and you should be honored that I feel that comfortable with you" Apparently, she did it in the morning. Sounds like a good line to me, and I don't think there's anything wrong with asking. Though this whole plan sounds like it could backfire.